To be resilient to strive through the nuances of life, Motivational Speaker and Life Coach Anamika Yaduvanshi urges you to conquer the challenge of the inevitable change. Change is the only constant, there’s is nothing you can do to prevent change. Life moves forward and things will always be changing in one way or the other. The challenge is not to just survive change, but to thrive. Change which could mean tough times to deal which can be sometimes painful, as it requires you to be tough to go through it and bounce back. That is what being resilient is all about. Therefore, when there are bad times, people who have learnt resilient skills, have an increased chance of bouncing back. This can reduce depression and other health issues. Here’s a list of ten easy pointers that will help you thrive through with a stable mindset..
1. Be Positive: Being positive is being more relaxed and less worried about a tough situation and coping without taking any stress. That surely does not mean that you abstain to take the action that you need to take regarding the situation. Being positive means that you are relaxed after the necessary steps that you have taken. Being positive or being optimist does not mean ignoring the problem, in order to focus on positive outcomes. It means that setbacks are transient and that you have the skills and abilities to combat the challenges you face. What you are dealing with, may be difficult, but it is important to remain hopeful and positive about bright future.
2. Believe in yourself: Beliefs in your abilities and potential plays an important role in coping with stress and recovering from difficult challenges. Believe that you are the most capable person to deal with what has just been thrown in your lap in the form of a challenge. Have faith that you have the skill to deal with the toughest situation. Faith can move mountains. No challenge can stand when you believe in yourself. Just affirm that you CAN do it and believe me, you will surely do it.
3. Find out your life purpose: Everybody has a purpose in their life and sometimes the purpose of your life is bigger than you. The best time that our purpose becomes clear to us is when we are going through the toughest time of our life because you discover a lot in bad or tough times. Krishna narrated Geeta when there was a challenge in Krishna’s life perhaps Geeta was the life purpose of lord Krishna. Lord Ram defeated Ravana and other demons when he was challenged and his wife was kidnapped, may be killing Ravana was the purpose of Lord Ram’s life. If you are going through challenge and you are mindful, there is a possibility that you will be able to find out the purpose of your life.
4. Embrace Change : If we keep running away from change and don’t accept it then things may get worse. If we accept change, that gives an open-minded approach to handle it. By learning how to be more adaptable, you’ll be better equipped to respond when faced with a crisis. Resilient people often utilize these events as an opportunity to branch out in new directions. While some people may be crushed by abrupt changes, highly resilient individuals are able to adopt and thrive.
5. Accept things you cannot change : Change can be difficult to deal with so people want to change a lot of things around which is not possible so they end up feeling frustrated. For instance, today’s corona time people want to change the corona situation, they want corona to go away which is sadly not possible overnight. What they should be doing is getting adapted to the new corona world and finding ways to boost immunity and follow corona protocols like wearing mask, washing hands and maintaining distance.
6. Assemble a support system of family, friends or mentor : Having caring, supportive people around you can be a protective factor during the time of crisis. It is important to have people you can confide in . while simply talking about a situation with a friend or a loved one will not make trouble go away . it allows you to share your feelings, gain support, receive positive feedback and come up with solutions to deal with it.
7. Take care of Yourself : when you are going through a crisis, you may neglect your own basic needs. Not eating properly, no exercise, yoga or physical activity to keep you in shape or perhaps not taking enough sleep are all sorts of natural reaction to a crisis. But doing this won’t resolve but may make things worse. Focus on building your self-nurturance skills even when you are dealing with bad times. Make time to do activities that you enjoy. By taking care of your own needs, you can boost your overall health and resilience and be fully ready to face life’s challenges. Take breaks and treat yourself with good food, good entertainment or long drives can motivate you and give you a fresh perspective. Don’t use alcohol, nicotine or caffeine as a coping mechanism. Long term use of these mechanisms will add to your problems further.
8. Make Goals: Resilient people look at the crisis in a more realistic manner and try to set goals to deal with it as dealing with a bad situation can be overwhelming and one gets confused what to do so making goals and dealing things one by one can be a practical and realistic way of dealing with a crisis. Setting goals and thinking of ways to achieve them can be transitional and can take you from not knowing to achieving new things .
9. Develop your problem solving skill : Studies show that people who are able to come up with solutions to a problem are better able to cope with problems than those who cannot. Whenever you encounter a new challenge , make a quick list of the possible ways to deal with it. Experiment with different strategies and focus on developing a logical way to walk through common problems. If you practice problem solving skill on a regular basis, you will be better prepared to cope with serious challenges.
10. Take action : Simply waiting for a crisis to go away on its own only prolongs its existence. Thinking too much and planning on the safe side may not help either. By going through all the tips that I have mentioned above , just make an action plan and take action because action will give you result and over thinking won’t. Take small steps to work towards resolving the crisis and your small progress each time will encourage you further to take more steps, however sometimes, few actions may turn out to be failure but they won’t failures, it would be experience and learning. Don’t get discouraged with failures, work hard and keep taking the next logical step and you will the “best resilient version of you”!
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